Usually when people ask me whether I'm a girl or a boy I tell them that I'm a woman or I look at them puzzled and raise my eyebrows - it depends on the situation and my mood (I can be bitchy when I had a bad day or when I have PMS). Once I was sitting on a bench in front of a supermarket when a woman (a complete stranger) approached me and asked me the question I have heard at least a thousand times in my life. Instead of my standard reply I asked her: "Why is that even important? Or do you want to sleep with me?". My reply left her speechless. I thought that her reaction was hypocritical. She seemed to think that she was allowed to be rude but that I wasn't. How would she feel if a person that she had never seen before walked up to her and asked her: "are you a man or a woman?"
Most people give up when they realize that their questions don't upset you. Some are more persistent and do not leave you alone when you ignore them or when you "answer" their question with a question. An older lady said to me that she thought that I was a boy but that she now knows that I'm a girl. I didn't tell her that I couldn't care less what she thinks and I didn't point out to her that keeping your thoughts to yourself is also an option. Since she didn't get the reaction she had hoped for she repeated what she had said. I told her in my calm and confident 'suck my strap on'-voice: "Don't be so sure until I take off my pants". That shut her up. :-) Sometimes all it takes to make someone back off is to show them that they can't make you feel unsure about yourself and that you can stand up for yourself.
Why do some people obviously consider it to be okay to forget about their manners and to be disrespectful just because they can't figure me out? Why does it interest them what I have between my legs? What makes them think that it's any of their business?
On the one hand, I understand why many people assume that I'm a boy or man or why they're confused. Many people read me as male even though I don't want to pass as male. I "just" have what some people call this BUTCH energy or aura and I'm androgynous. I find it interesting that most gay women find it ridiculous that many straight people consider me masculine. [Mostly I wear my hair very short (I have a buzz cut at present) and I like to dress casually and sporty (shirts, hoodies, baggy jeans, cargo pants, board shorts). I never wear dresses, high heels, make up or a handbag.] On the other hand, I don't because I have boobs and curvy hips and I do not have facial hair or a beard.
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